I'm confused-marital counseling or divorce?

I can only say if it were me, I would at least separate and definitely get marriage counseling. That is, if I thought I could still have feelings for him and that there was any hope. You did say that you still love him, so this may be the best solution for you to see whether your marriage can improve. If he doesn't and it doesn't, then you may need to consider divorce, just for the sake of your sanity. Don't do it until you're absolutely sure and it becomes the last option, though. Good luck to you.